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But I just don’t want to!
Have you ever had one of those days when you were ‘supposed’ to do something and you just didn’t feel like it? Like blogging for example (oops, did I say that out loud?) So, I’ve been thinking all day that I should write a blog post and then, I’ve conveniently found something else to do. Some of the things I’ve distracted myself with have been important and productive, others, not so much like eating again, checking my email for the zillionth time and cleaning the bathroom. You know I’m desparate when I clean the bathroom. Even as I’m writing this, I’m finding ways to avoid the subject. Or am I? Actually no. Because one way to make writing easier for those of us who sometimes resist it is to make writing a habit. What’s that mean? It means that even when you don’t feel like it, even when you don’t know where to begin, even when it feels like a chore or that there’s something better to do, you do it anyway! On a schedule, like clock work, no matter what, no kidding. Just like you’d do anything else you were trying to make a new habit, like exercising, drinking a glass of water instead of smoking or biting your fingernails, washing the dishes instead of leaving them in the sink, putting things away after you’ve finished using them. You’ve got to ‘just do it’, to borrow a phrase from Nike. And the more you do it, the easier it gets and the easier it gets the more fun it is and the more fun it is, the better you get at it and before you know it, you do it without thinking about it or at least, without the struggle. Before you know it, you can’t imagine yourself NOT doing it. Before you know it, it has become a habit! See you tomorrow.
I loved the call that I listened to yesterday between Suzanne, Andrea and you. One of you said that we resist that which will make the biggest difference. I really got that. Most of my resistance comes from fear of change. I am getting better, more adventurous which as a Saggitarian is supposed to be one of my traits. I have learned to look at my reasons for resisting. If it is just fear of change, I either just do it as you stated above or I move forward but at a slower pace so that I can get comfortable with the change whatever it is. Sometimes, there is a story behind the resistance that needs to be checked out and maybe even acknowledged before I choose to move forward. Have a glorious day unless you choose to do otherwise.
Patricia,
Adventure, like beauty, it in the eye of the beholder. For some, it is bungee jumping off a high bridge, for others, it is sticking your toe in the cold water. Who’s to say which is the greater adventure? We take whatever steps we can to move through our fear. I don’t know the origin of the following quote but I think it is a good message: “I’ve spent much of my life being afraid of what I’d meet around the next corner! So much so that I’ve missed much of the joy and happiness that could have been mine!”
Byron Katie’s questions about beliefs are so helpful. Ask youurself the following questions about your limiting beliefs:
1. Is it true?
2. Can I know with certainty that it is true?
3. How do I react when I believe that it is true?
4. Who would I be without that thought?
Great food for thought, and for overcoming unsubstantiated fear.