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Yesterday, I wrote a post about my struggle to write a blog post despite the fact that I knew I should do it. After I wrote it, I realized that my resistance to writing was about ‘shoulding’. I asked myself, ‘Who says I should?’ ’Do I think I should?’ ‘Why should I?’ And I came up with the fact that I’ve been told by blogging experts that I should, because I need to have a regular presence in the blogosphere. I think I should because, well, THEY say so and I have this voice in my head that says, ‘If I were really serious about building my business and serving my clients, then I would write regularly.’ I realized that as long as those were the reasons why I should, I wouldn’t. But, when I realized what I can gain by doing it, what’s in it for me, I got excited. The benefit, for me is that, I really like to write and I’d like to get better at it and that once I get started I get on a roll and I have fun writing. I think that people can relate to my writing and that what I have to say is useful to a lot of people. So there are a lot of really good reasons to write often. But, as long as certain conditions are in place (in my mind) it’s a stuggle.
Here are the top 6 things that get in my way and what I can do to overcome them:
Problem: I’m highly self-critical and often think my writing isn’t good enough.
Solution: Acknowledge my inner critic and invite her to take a back seat for a while and come back later. Continue writing until I am finished and then go back and edit. Remember that my first attempt is only a draft, a starting point to work from, not the final product.
Problem: I think I should.
Solution: Determine what the value is for me; how will I benefit?
Problem: I don’t know how to get started.
Solution: Just start. Look inside at what’s going on, listen to your inner voice or look at an article or website and just start writing about what you find. Usually, once I get started, it just starts to spill out of me.
Problem: Self-defeating beliefs
Solution: Test those beliefs. Are they true? Is it true that I have to post every day in order to be good and committed? No. I’m good at what I do and committed to my clients and my business whether I post every day or not.
Solution: “Perfect is the enemy of progress.” Determine when good is good enough.
Problem: I don’t have time.
Solution: I’ll do what I can in the time I have. If I don’t finish, I’ll come back to it later. Often, things don’t take as long as I think they will and I find that the time I have available is, in fact, enough time.