Stuff happens.  People get laid off, relationships end, people move, we miss deadlines, we fail to achieve a goal.  But when these things happen to you,  one thing doesn’t change.  You are still the same lovable, worthy, talented self you were before they occurred.  It can be hard to maintain feeling of high self worth when it feels as if some important aspects of your life are out of control.  But, giving in to the circumstances only causes a greater downward spiral from which it is more difficult to recover.

It’s particularly difficult to stay strong and feel empowered at this time of year.  Here are some ideas on how to enjoy the holidays and help others do the same through the challenge of change.

1. Be kind and gentle to yourself but don’t indulge yourself by dwelling on your feelings.  The difference?  Being kind and gently means, changing your expectations, slowing down a bit, forgiving yourself so that you can move on.  Indulging in your feelings is using them as a reason to stay stuck.
2. Moods are contagious.  Don’t spread your negativism to others.  Spend time with people who are upbeat and positive.  Spread feelings of hope and possibility around.
3. Find positive, affordable ways to create meaning during the holiday.
4. Eliminate holiday habits that you no longer value and enjoy and create new traditions.
5. Volunteer.  Giving to others is an amazing way to get filled up and feel great about yourself.
6. Continue (or begin) to live a healthy lifestyle.  Exercise, eat healthy quantities of nutritious foods, don’t overindulge in alcohol.

Give yourself and your loved ones the greatest gift… your presence.