You can’t consciously change what you can’t describe. So many people tell me they want to improve their relationships, be healthier, get organized. But what does that really mean? Some people can easily answer that question. “I want to spend at least one night a week doing something with my husband, just the two of us. I want to walk 2 miles a day, 3 days a week, I want to make the beds and wash the dishes in the sink before I leave the house in the morning. When you have that clarity, it is easy to create specific action steps to move toward them. You pick dates for your time with you hubby and write them in your calendar. You make a list of the things you’d like the two of you to do together and work your way through the list, doing one thing each week. You decide when during the day is best for you to walk. You determine which days you’ll walk. You mark the day and time in your calendar, as an appointment with yourself and you honor it, just as you would honor a meeting with someone else. In fact, it’s best if you find a buddy to walk with or to check in with so you keep your commitment.

When your goal is clear, it is much easier to design an action plan that will help you reach it. What’s the specific change you want to make? What concrete actions will you take to make the change? When will you take those actions?

Not sure yet what specific change you’d like to make to in order to be happier, healthier and more fulfilled? Come back in a few days. I’ll address that in my next post.